Sunday, February 22, 2009

S.C.O.R.E. Model

Every living person has problems. A problem is never a problem. The model or ways we use to solve the problem is the real problem. There are many ways and tactic to solve a problem. However, I particularly prefer the S.C.O.R.E. model and think it is effective yet simple and straightforward to try solving a problem.

S – Symptoms
C – Cause
O – Outcome
R – Recourses
E – Effect

This S.C.O.R.E. model is unique in a way that it touches on the effect of any decision we will make.

Let us put up a case study. Peter has 2 girlfriends, Cheryl and Mindye. He likes both of them and he cannot decide who he loves more and can live for life happily. Let us try to solve his problem using the S.C.O.R.E. model as follows :

Symptom - He is troubled because he does not feel good to be a 2-timer dating 2 girlfiriends at the same time
Cause - He loves Cheryl since young but recently met Mindye, whom now he find himself truely love

Outcome - He wants to make a decisive choice so he stay loyal to 1 girl only
Resourses - He can give himself more time to know the girls better and also know who he loves more. He can find out which of the girls he is happy with everytime he dates them. He can consult his parents for advice. He can talk to the girls and test them individually. He can check his peace of mind if he 'assume' a decision made. He can find alternative such as letting go both girls and find a new love

Effect. If he choose any of them, he will hurt the other and may even lose friendship. If he will to let go both of them, he has to prepare to hurt both and lose both relationship. He may have to live with regrets, if any, throughout his whole life

After asking these questions and getting answer from Peter himself, as a NLP coach, we will let him decide and not give him our answers.

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